today April 28, 2022my_locationCalgary Adult Playground (Polyamory) Community Club
CAPCClub is holding a monthly SPEED DATING EVENT
Singles, Couples, Threesomes and More somes come an meet a possible match in one event. You do not want to miss this event. It is better than TINDER, BUMBLE or any other Dating sites.
At the STUDIO home of CAPCClub.ca, members and non-members (non-members must be pre approved)
DOUBLE VACCINATION REQUIRED
The following is an explanation of how it works:
Q: I’m attractive and intelligent, but I can’t meet a partner. I go out with friends but always go home alone. Online dating hasn’t gone well, and is time-consuming. A friend suggested we try speed dating, but I’m afraid I’ll hate all the people, or be intimidated, and get tongue-tied.
A: Speed dating is a great way to meet available people, quickly. In one evening you will meet 10-15 individuals who, at the minimum, are motivated enough to get off the couch, have the price of the ticket, are not hiding behind a spurious glamour photo, and are unlikely to be predators.
Speed dating might not be as popular as it use to be but there are still venues that host regular events.
Equal numbers of men, women, couples, threesomes and more-somes (speed dating is predominantly heterosexual) get to talk for five minutes, before moving on to the next person/group. Everyone has a card, and checks each encounter “Friend”, “Date”, or “No”. These are collected at the end of the night. Next day, an email informs you of any matches. What you then do is your choice.
CAPCClub suggests if you are a couple, threesome or more-some, each member of the couple have their own card and make their own decision. If there is a match, you would most certainly tell your partner (s) and then decide if you attend the date together. In the end it is your choice.
“Groom yourself well, check your posture, and … make eye contact!”
Notice your body language. What impression do you give if you slump? Make a habit of looking people in the eye in your daily interactions. Maximize that first impression.
Choose clothes in which you feel attractive, but be real. Don’t wear something cool or sexy that is not really you. Speed dating is often held on weeknights. Some come straight from work, so you do not need to dress for the red carpet.
Make-up can act like a mask, so go easy – enhance, do not disguise. Similarly, do not put up a wall of fragrance. Pheromones play a big role in attraction. Be clean, but allow your natural smell to come through.
Do not use alcohol or drugs to steady your nerves. Be positive, smile, hold your head up, and look at people. If you do not feel confident, “fake it till you make it”.
Do not be judgmental. Ditch that list of things you want, and the rigid template. Give people a chance. Some great relationships are between people who fell for the last person on earth they imagined.
When it comes to talking, we suggests you talk about something about which you are passionate.
“Even if the other person does not share your passion, they will see an authentic, engaged, human being.”
Steer clear of controversial topics, like politics or religion, unless either is your passion. Also, it is not a job interview, so do not merely list your assets and achievements.
Keep it light, and retain a sense of humour. You do not want to seem intense, or dour. Humility is better than arrogance, but take care using self-deprecating humour. Accept compliments with a simple “thank you”. When overdone, putting yourself down can convey low self-esteem, or fishing for compliments.
You will have brief encounters, so leave your baggage at the door. Touch lightly on possible roadblocks – your desire to have a baby, or to find a father for your 16 kids; your money worries; your crazy ex, or ailing parents … if you have a match, and choose to go on a date, you will then have time to go deeper.
“Let’s talk about sex, baby …” Tread carefully. Be flirty, but do not be too blunt, unless you can carry it off with wit, panache and aplomb. While you are hoping to form a sexual relationship, it can be off putting if you feel like a piece of meat, or prey.
We also encourage people to be prepared to show vulnerability.
“If you are feeling nervous, clear the air by admitting it. If you offer a compliment make it specific. Turn ‘I like your dress,’ into, ‘The blue of your dress matches your eyes’.”
Observations can also help the conversation flow, such as: “That looks Balinese. Have you travelled in Asia?” Ask questions, and pay attention to the answers. We are attracted to people who make us feel we are seen and heard.
Top tips for successful speed dating:
1) Groom yourself well
Choose clothes in which you feel attractive, but be real. You’re not dressing for the red carpet
2) Check your posture and make eye contact
Be positive, smile, hold your head up, and look at people
3) Do not use alcohol or drugs to steady your nerves
It can, and probably will, backfire
4) Go easy on the make-up, and the scent
The aim is to enhance, not disguise, the natural you. Pheromones play a big role in attraction, too, so you want to be clean while allowing your natural smell to come through.
5) Don’t judge
Ditch that list of things you want, and the rigid template. Give people a chance
6) Talk about something about which you are passionate
But steer clear of controversial topics, like politics or religion, unless either is your passion
7) Keep it light
Show you have a sense of humour. You do not want to seem intense or dour
8) Leave your baggage at the door
It’s a first meeting; you can get into the deep stuff if there’s a second (or third). But it’s OK to admit to some nerves.
A reservation is required. CAPCClub will be balancing the Speed Daters between Females and Males.
DOUBLE VACCINATION REQUIRED
|Begin||April 28, 2022 H 7:00 pm|
|End||April 28, 2022 H 11:00 pm|
|Location||Calgary Adult Playground (Polyamory) Community Club|
|Address||Provided upon receiving an invitation|
|Phone||825 407 8655|
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